When do you think about in the morning when you wake up? Usually for me, it is when is the coffee going to be ready, what do I have to do that day, where is Caleb, did I make Sean his lunch yet for the day, etc. etc. Yesterday morning started out pretty uneventfully, my husband got up, made the coffee and I waited for Caleb to get up for the day after waking up at 5:45am but going back to sleep for a bit. After putting Caleb back down in his crib and waiting for him to fall asleep before I tiptoed out of the room, I walked into the kitchen half asleep to where Sean was getting himself ready before he had to leave for practice. He tells me, "want to hear a compliment?" At 6:15am, my mind wasn't quite ready to comprehend a compliment. Initially, I said "no" but then I said "yes" and Sean said, "I knew you wanted to hear it." He went on to pay me the compliment in regards to being a mother and something he admired about me. Shortly after he left for practice, I got a few minutes to myself before I heard Caleb up for the day. The rest of the day was the same, the usual, nothing out of the ordinary until I realized my attitude was better overall and the calmness I had during my day in the midst of toddlerville was undeniable. I thought back to the earlier parts of my day realizing that was a compliment was paid by my husband in the first few minutes of the day.
I am no marriage expert by any means and have definitely made my fair share of mistakes. Here is a suggestion, pay a compliment to your spouse first thing in the morning. Brush away that morning breathe if you need to but pay them a genuine compliment. I bet if anything it makes their day that much better!
Sean, thank you for setting this example of how to excel as a marriage partner, for leading this family, and for working so hard for us!