Disappointment...

Over the weekend I experienced another wave of disappointment in this whole job search process. Disappointment is hard, isn't it? However, I have Sean, great friends but most importantly God to pick me up when disappointment comes my way.  In fact He knows the disappointment I will face, He is not surprised by it.
Disappointment is plainly a fact of life. No one will go through life and not experience disappointment at one time or another. Disappointment is hard, it can hurt, it is discouraging and it can leave you with either two options - allow the disappointment to set you back or you can fight through the disappointment to make you stronger. 
To help me get through the disappointment I had this weekend, there were several things that helped. 
1. Acknowledging what I was feeling - hurt, anger, disappointment, etc. When recognizing the feeling, it is easier to work through the emotions.

2. Seek out God - He wants to help us during the good and the bad, through the triumphs and the tribulations. While sometimes He won't the hurt or disappointment go away, He will use the situation to strengthen our faith in Him and that is the best outcome I can think of through all of this disappointment.

3. Sean and I stuck with our plans to attend church Saturday evening. I could have easily said no I don't feel like going to church, but feeling and knowing what you should do are two very different thoughts.

4. I kept plans with a friend I had made for Saturday night before the disappointing news came. Again, instead of canceling because I didn't feel like going out, I hung out with my friend, realized things weren't too bad, had a lot of laughs by the end of the evening and was grateful for the great friends God has provided me. Nachos and a beer weren't a bad way to help as well.

5. Retail therapy on Sunday afternoon with some friends isn't a bad way either to help sort through my emotions following the disappointment. I mean green jeans, no one can't help but smile at 
green jeans :-)


6. Laughing and there is plenty of that in my household. Between my husband's silly jokes and the random silly stuff my dogs do, laughter is a sure fire way to help get over disappointment. I mean is Kimbia really comfortable sleeping like this with her paw hanging down?

By the end of the weekend, while the disappointment still hurt, I knew it wouldn't linger on, that God has another plan and I just have to continue to trust Him through all of this and even when future disappointments come my way, I can read through this list and realize you can get over it. 
How was your weekend? Tell me I want to know!

47 comments:

Emily said...

I just went through the whole job search process and I agree that it does take a huge emotional toll. But your positive outlook is so encouraging to see!! Keep it up! You'll get the job tha tis right for you!

The Pink Growl said...

So sorry you had some disappointment girl! I know that's frustrating for you! I will say a quick prayer for you. I forced myself to get up and go to church yesterday morning even though I was so tired, but I'm so glad I did!

Erin Reissig said...

So sorry things didn't work out this time. I hope that things start to look up in the job hunting process. You have to admit you were probably one of the best dressed candidates though. lol. Keep it up, you'll get there all in His time.

Whitney Levash said...

Awe hun! Something great will come your way soon! This I know! I'm glad you had things to keep you going this weekend. I'd be over in a heartbeat with some ice cream, moscato wine and a chick flick in hand for us to chill out if i was near :)
-wHiT

Simply LKJ said...

Disappointments are tough, especially while you are in the midst of them. But, some day down the road you will realize it was a growth experience and God clearly steering you away from something that wasn't right for you. Love the green jeans by they way! (brought back memories of Captain Kangaroo, LOL)

Leah said...

i love your outlook meg. it's so easy to get caught up in disappointment and let it weigh us down. it's great you looked past it and went ahead with what makes you happy. God has the perfect job for you, all in the right timing!

Alissa said...

I wish I could hug you right now! My boyfriend is slightly going through the same feeling as he graduates. There is a great reason and you are going to find that reason why it keeps happening. YOU ARE a wonderful person!

Ruthy Taylor said...

Way to follow through with your plans and keep your head up. I think it's easy to wallow and fall into self pity...it takes strength to look past our own circumstances, engage with others and God. Still praying you find the perfect fit Meg!

TheTinyHeart said...

Sorry to hear about the job search but I know something will come up for you! Shopping always makes me feel better too :)

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Amy {Cupcakes+Couture} said...

sorry to her about the job search, but those nachos and the shopping trip would definitely help me too! :) keep your head up girl!
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Jessica said...

Hang in there, lady. Disappointment sucks, but it makes good news even more sweet. The perfect job will come your way at the perfect time. XO!

Betty said...

I love this post...disappointment is never easy, but I love that you are being proactive in dealing with it (especially about not cancelling plans..because that is what I'm always tempted to do when I'm sad or frustrated with something!).

Rachel said...

I can completely relate to this! Disappointment happens to me so often that I'm learning to just expect it. Which is terrible to say :( I say just try to focus on the positives and trust others are going through the same thing!

Jaime @ La vie...J'aime said...

i can totally relate- i went through a miserable job process a couple years ago. Hang in there and retail therapy helps :)

Mrs. Pedersen said...

I have to agree...you can't help but smile at green jeans!! ;-)

jackie jade said...

so tough - i know what you're going through. i went through soooo much disappointment and rejection with my prior job search. it really sucks but we have to not let it get us down! and my dogs make me laugh so that always helps me out. good luck and stay positive!
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Meggan Morehead said...

Ugh job searching is the worst...its so stressful but you will eventually find the right job for you! Nachos and retail therapy sound perfect to me! Keep your head up!

Amanda said...

I'm on the job search right now! (Had an interview just this morning, in fact.) I am with you on all of these! Stay strong and keep praying. God will bring you something awesome!

Life With Lauren said...

Such a great way to look at things stay positive! Hope you find an amazing job you will love soon saying a prayer for you. (and I love the green jeans)

Amy @ A Glimpse of the Gouglers said...

Keep your chin up girl! Way to hang in there and continue on with your plans. I know it seems like a silly thing to congratulate, but sometimes it's hard to put on a happy face and keep moving forward when you're disappointed. As you said, keep your faith in God and the right opportunity will come at the perfect time!

Charlotte said...

Oh girl i have literally cried all morning about my job situation. I am just desperate for a job and have one I am really interested in but am not sure if I'll make the cut for interview number two or even get hired. It is so frustrating and hasn't helped our first month of marriage since I am so down about sitting around all day! The first few weeks were fine because I was getting the house settled but now I am readyyyyyyy to get into a routine and find something I love. I wouldn't mind working at Lowes as a cashier (I hear they have a great discount), but I want something I LOVE ya know? What kind of thing are you looking for?

Sarah and Stewart said...

I'm so sorry about your disappointment, but it sounds like you are dealing with it in really healthy ways. Hang in there sweetie!

Meg said...

Retail therapy is a wonderful thing. So are those nachos. So are you. :-) Good luck with the job - something will pull through!

Alexa said...

First of all beer and nachos are ALWAYS a good way to help with disappointment. Secondly, it is so hard to accept sometimes, but you are right it is all a part of life...ebbs and flows. Kirby and I were just talking about life challenges this past week and sometimes it just feels like you are stuck in a tunnel with no way out. The thing is everyone experiences this at some point. Just as we have highs, we have lows. The lows are good because they make us treasure the highs that much more. Regardless I am sending positive vibes your way in terms of the job search...because everyone needs good energy in their lives no matter what. Thanks for sharing with us Meg! xo

Lauren @Simply With A Smile said...

Keep trying Meg! You'll get one! Don't give up!

Amy said...

I love this post. You are so right, acknowledging what we're feeling and bringing it to God is the best way to overcome and emotion. Sorry to hear you are facing disappointment :( I pray that God brings the perfect opportunity your way, and soon!

Faith said...

You have an amazing spirit. You will completely find a job you love soon.

And I agree. How can you not smile with green jeans? Thinking and praying for you.

Jennifer @ Delightfully Noted said...

Bummer on the whole job search. You are such a bright girl I know something will come around for you! PS. Those green pants were made for you! seriously, you looks FAB in them!!

emi said...

ah i'm sorry about the job, but glad you could still enjoy the weekend- it will all work out! XOXO

Val said...

Your positivity is going to take you straight to the top...The job wait will be worth it....when the time comes you will have a perfect job!

Care said...

I am so sorry to hear about the tough situation. Man God has some great plans I am sure - sometimes it is just hard to wait and see what they are. I will keep you in my prayers!
Love the sleeping position, haha which I could sleep like that.
Green pants are crazy cute! Love it.

Stephanie said...

I'm so sorry Meg!!!! I've been thinking about you today and praying for your situation. One a side note, love your green jeans!

birdie to be said...

Aw... Im so sorry! Keep your chin up. And when you can't, it sounds like you have so much love around you and here on your blog. Xo

Sarah said...

Love your green pants!
(I'm not sure what job you are looking for, but the coffee company I work for is hiring. Don't hesitate to reach out to me for information.)

christina said...

i like your pick me ups! sometimes our biggest heartaches lead to our biggest happiness! God must have something better in store for you ;)

Christelle said...

Disappointment is a tough thing to overcome, but I believe your plan of action is the best way to beat it! Good for you for fighting through the struggle and keeping your head up, it's so easy to let it beat you down but you'll definitely be better off by keeping a strong faith and attitude. Thinking and praying for you!

Melissa said...

Sorry to hear about the rough time with the job hunt. I'm glad you're not letting yourself get discouraged. Retail therapy always works! ;o)

Stesha Jordan said...

Awww girl I am here for you. I know it is a hard situation to be in but I know everything happens for a reason & you will find the perfect job. You are amazing, keep up the spirit I cant wait to see what happens for you!!

xxS

Rachel Lynne said...

I'm sorry to hear about your disappointment... but it definitely happens all the time and I think you did the best thing you can do! Keep your plans and focus on the good things in life. It can be very frustrating to be constantly disappointed.

Kasey Lynne said...

I just wish that I could give you a job so badly! I know exactly what you're going through and I didn't have near the amount of positivity coming out of my mouth or in my head. God has the perfect job for you and I can't wait to see what it is. MAYBE a baby instead of a job?? WHO KNOWS WHAT GOD HAS PLANNED! ;D

E said...

Thinking of you during the job search. I just accepted a job last week and I totally feel your job hunting pain. It's no fun. I am glad things were looking up by the end of the weekend!

Alisha said...

It's times like these that God wants to grab our attention and get it focused back on him. With my new job, I'm learning every day that's exactly what God wants from me. There's no way I'd be where I am no without him. I keep praying and looking to him for guidance and discernment.

An ice cold beer and a little retail therapy doesn't hurt either! :)

Kelley Gilster said...

Continuing to pray for God to direct you in His plan! and dang girl I want your legs!

Jane said...

Aww! Love how you can embrace the disappointment but not let it swallow you up! It's great that you are letting the positives carry you forward! Good luck to you! Don't give up!

Leslie said...

Green pants make everything better :) Praying for you and your job search!! Something perfect is out there and it will find you! xo

Corinne said...

aww I'm so sorry you had such a crummy Friday and difficult weekend! I completely understand how hard the job search can be - and how down it can make you feel about yourself! I searched and interviewed for 3 months before finally landing the job I have now, so I feel ya!
I think it's great that you have friends and family around you to help in lifting your spirits - and I really do think dogs have a sixth sense about knowing when they should be extra silly/funny when their parents are feeling down. Hope this week has brought you a fresh, new, positive outlook!

Lauren {at} Life.Love.Lauren said...

I totally know what you mean! I felt the same way for what felt like the longest time. And sometimes still feel that way!