My Wishlist for a Husband

A little personal story for you today!

 

I always knew I was suppose to get married, it was my dream, my wish to have a partner to go through life with, to laugh with him, have those ups and downs with during our lifetime. I wanted to get married more than having children. I said to myself that choosing the person I wanted to marry would be the second most important decision I would make in my life, the first most important decision was to be a follower of Christ, to have a personal relationship with my Father. 

So I didn't take dating lightly ever, if I didn't see a potential in the first couple of days, then usually I would end it. Going to a Christian college, there is this phenomenon known as Ring by Spring, dating couples get engaged by the spring semester of their senior year and then start planning their wedding after graduation.

That didn't happen to me in college. I graduated without a boyfriend and thus certainly not an engagement ring on my finger.

After college, you got from these huge social circles because all your friends live a few apartments down, your besties are in all your classes, you meet up for lunch, hang out again for dinner and then have all these wonderful weekend plans.

Once you graduated college, those social circles for me at least became next to nothing. I hated the weekends because it meant pretty much hanging by myself all weekend long because my social circles had moved back to their hometowns, or we would make plans and come Friday night my friends would cancel their plans with me. 

Dating was a hit or miss, I tried a few meet-ups through Match.com but in the end I didn't feel comfortable with our story of we met online. I know very successful relationships that met through online dating sites and I am happy for them but it just wasn't for me.

During all these years however, I kept a list in my wallet. I made a list of the top qualities I wanted in my future husband. These are the qualities that were most important to me in my future mate because again I said who I would say yes to marrying would be the second most important decision I would make.

I called it my G-list (no sexual innuendos intended).

In order the qualities I put down are:

laughter

physically active

Christian

responsible

trustworthy

high morals

good family background

loves to travel

experience new cultures.

I write this post to specifically talk about quality #2, physically active.

I didn't write down my future husband had to run, it was just how I am physically active most frequently. I started running my senior year of high school when I would wake up and run with my dad before I went to school and he went to work. Sidenote: when I think back on those times, I am so grateful I had those moments with my dad

However,when Sean mentioned he was a runner on our first date, I checked off that box next to my list.

I went on a 7 mile run yesterday in training for my half marathon coming up next month and while it wasn't a fabulous run, I came back with a thought.

When I prayed for a husband who was physically active, I had no idea God would answer my prayer with a husband who coached runners for a living. 

My thought was when I prayed for a husband who was physically active, God provided so much more than that. He provided a husband who would encourage me to run more, run higher mileage and to run harder. He provided me with a husband who knew I could run faster than I thought I could, God provided me a husband who believed in me and my running abilities more than I did.

When Sean and I did the Color Run on Sunday, he suggested holding hands together as we crossed the finish line and this was captured.

 We go through this life together as a team and I am looking forward to many more surprises God has in store for the reason why He picked Sean to be my partner, my helpmate and my husband.

If you are single, I would encourage you to write a list of the top qualities you want in your future mate and if you are engaged or married, make a list of the qualities you love most about your mate and a list of the top qualities that drew you to him, keep that in your back pocket or in your wallet, pull it from time to time maybe during arguments, during rough times to remind yourself why you love your husband, fiance or boyfriend.